5 responses to “Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex”

  1. Anonymous

    Hi! I enjoyed reading your post and I have a question for you…you had “breastfeeding aversion” while you were pregnant and nursing your son….then you had D-MER when nursing your second. How do you feel they are different? Are they very different experiences/sensations? I have heard D-MER compared to “breastfeeding aversion” before and I have always wondered if that was quite right…what do you think?

  2. midwife of the plains

    Thank you for this post. I have created a link to it from my blog. I, too, have experienced this dysphoria and always knew it was about let down but have never, until now, had any confirmation of it. Though I am not one for diagnoses, I sure do feel a sense of relief that this is being researched and explored. I wonder how common it is?

  3. jennifairy

    Thanx for sharing this Lisa. I had never heard of it before, & its fascinating.
    Always happy to hear of something that gives women a contradiction out of thinking they are 'crazy' or 'its just me' etc.
    Hope you dont me being pedantic, but its "Dysphoric" ('bad feelings') rather than "Dysmorphic" ('bad anatomy'). (Bloody medical jargon is easy to confuse, comes of having a such a mongrel language, I bet if we had just stuck to either Latin *or* Greek we wouldnt have it so bad).

  4. Alia Macrina Heise

    Hi! Popping in from d-mer.org! In answer to “midwife of the plains’” question, we did a poll, online, posted in over 10 breastfeeding/parenting forums asking women who had breastfed for at least 3 weeks to answer a one question survey about milk ejection reflex. If they choose to click on the link they were then given brief information about D-MER, including a web link for if they were unsure of their response, and then asked if they experienced it. Based on that inquiry we got over 350 responses and found that very approximately, through this unscientific survey, 10% of breastfeeding mothers experience D-MER. This does not include mothers that weaned quickly because they “didn’t like how breastfeeding made them feel” as these women would not have very likely been on these breastfeeding message boards. Hope that helps, I plan on updating the site with this new information soon. -Alia Macrina Heise

  5. Michelle

    re breastfeeing aversion vs d-mer: they were actually quite different. While I was pregnant, when my son wanted to feed I dreaded having to do it, felt almost repulsed the whole time, it made my skin crawl, I felt ‘wrong’ and it lasted during the whole feed, sometimes getting worse during the feed. (lots of women breastfeed through pregnancy fine btw) With d-mer it’s not a repulsion, it’s more of a deep, sad, dark feeling but it’s over really quickly. I don’t dread feeding, I just have a feeling of dread before the let down. I still enjoy breastfeeding, whereas whilst pregnant I did it because I knew it was good for my son and he enjoyed it. I felt the aversion was a good enough reason to wean my son, but I don’t feel d-mer is bad enough for me to need to wean this baby.