Being Anonymous

gorrillaI have had an interesting and challenging week and have spent time pondering anonymous reporting.

Anonymity is derived from the Greek word ????????, meaning “without a name” or “namelessness”. In colloquial use, the term typically refers to a person, and often means that the personal identity, or personally identifiable information of that person is not known.

Is it possible however to just remain unidentified to the person you are “telling on” (that’s the term used by my children for this sort of thing).

What makes people not want to be identified? is it fear? Could the heavies be sent over? Why would someone making a complaint of any kind want to remain anonymous?

This week part of a comment I made on a public forum ages ago was passed on. The passer didn’t want to be identified but the reason for passing the message on was to try and get me to shut up. My comment was true and not that bad, trust me I say worse. I was totally willing to stand by what I said. I always am.

I have spent countless hours wondering why someone would do something so underhand. Any offers?

13 responses to “Being Anonymous”

  1. Katrine

    While I don’t know why someone would be so intentionally cruel and underhanded I sincerely hope that you’re not discouraged by other people negativity. You’re doing a wonderful job educating people about something you believe passionately about and that is absolutely to be commended!

  2. Lisa Barrett

    Thanks Katrine, why don’t you come to our coffee morning you don’t have to be pregnant or even want to. Just lots of lovely people making community.
    I do try and rise above this stuff but sometimes it’s a little difficult.

  3. Grant Horsfall

    “What is not love is always fear and nothing else” – A Course in Miracles.

    Sounds like “not love” to me.


  4. Radical Midwife

    I’m sorry that someone acted in this way….it really is shameful. Do not let their scheming sway you from blogging and continuing to speak your truth!
    Your post comes at at interesting time, as I have been pondering about coming out with my true identity on my blog (even though many already know who I am). I admit to switching my blog over to anonymity out of fear of a certain well-known Dr. who I will not name, as I don’t wish to feed her ego. But, I am have been feeling more and more that I need to come out in the open, and stand up proud to speak my truth.

  5. Katrine

    Thanks for the invitation, the coffee mornings sound lovely.
    Hopefully a lull at work, a second wednesday of the month and a day when I’m feeling brave coincide sometime soon!

  6. Anonymous

    remember, it’s THEIR problem, not yours. you are an inspiration to lots of people in Adelaide.

  7. midwife of the plains

    OHH well quoted Grant. Sounds like a very interesting book.
    And Lisa, fear is often the motivating factor. Hmmmm. The question is what is this person fearing? Birth? Truth? Birth Truth? Open, clear communication w/ the likes of you?
    I sure do love your voice. Thanks for speaking up.


  8. BirthinEarthMama

    Fear and intimidation. I think a lot of people feel threatened by the strength of someone’s passion, resolve, and beliefs. On a basic level, perhaps that person knew they were wrong in their feelings/actions and feared retribution – justifiable – by you. I know that I, too, say what I mean, mean what I say, and stand by it with everything in me. As such, any counter argument would be truthful, direct, and passionate. Some people have way less courage and greater cowardice.

    Some of the greatest people in the world have faced the strongest opposition. That’s what makes for a strong character. Keep speaking the truth. “And the truth will set you free.” John 8:32

  9. pinky

    I am sorry you have been abused by someone anonymous. I agree. If you have something to say, identify yourself. Actually, I am sorry that you have been treated badly. Even though we know it is not worth getting upset sometimes it does bother you.

  10. Lisa Barrett

    Thanks Pinky, Being a straight forward person as you can tell, it’s always makes me down hearted to realise that it is a hard world out there full of people waiting to get you.

  11. Gloria Lemay

    I think it’s Marianne Williamson who said “This world is a world of attack”. There’s a freedom in recognizing that and it’s not personal.

    I was feeling very sorry for myself at one time when the attack was directed at me. I phoned one of my truth teller friends and he said “Gloria, you have been an attacker . . . if you don’t think you have been, just ask one of your ex-husbands :) . The only reason you don’t attack now is that you learned it doesn’t work. The person who is attacking you hasn’t learned that yet. They need to learn that lesson in Life School the same way you did. You are their teacher.” That’s not what I wanted to hear at the time but it sure helped.

    There is a lot of jealousy in the myopic little world of obstetrics, too. Jealousy is grounded in the illusion that there is a scarcity of love in the world.

    Stop resisting the criticism and take it on. . . own it. . . it won’t bite. You will survive. This will drift away. You’re saving some other woman from being attacked. You can do it.

  12. Lisa Barrett

    Gloria, Thank you.

  13. Darren

    Thank you all for responding to my “Anonymous” post. My name is Libby, I am new to this blogging medium, and do not possess an email account of my own. Hence when I registered my message, the quickest way to sign in was to use my husband (Darren’s) address. Since he didn’t compose the text, the next most appropriate box to click was the Anonymous one. I am sorry, if this selection has caused so much upset, and in no way intended to “attack”, “shut people up”, “abuse”, “intimidate”, be “cruel” or “underhanded” in my original message (which I still stand by).